Sometimes we need to say...I'm sorry

There are often moments we have to say the words “I’m sorry!”  Sometimes these words are difficult to say, to write, to breathe.  We know in our mind it’s the right thing to do, to say sorry and to ask for forgiveness.  Saying sorry doesn’t have to be accepted by the person we are saying sorry to.  Sometimes, it isn’t accepted and we are left feeling totally let down.  When we ask for forgiveness or say sorry we must remember to do it for the right reason.  The right reason is always with a genuine intent to help someone know that whatever you have done to upset the other person, you feel terrible.  Regardless of whether or not you feel you are “right”, when you know your words or actions have hurt someone an apology is necessary. 

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When something goes unresolved and someone is never accountable for their behaviour it can become toxic.   Stubbornness can also get in the way of apologizing with the ‘ol “I’m not apologizing first, they should apologize to me.” scenario.  Someone has to give in and really, it feels a whole lot better when tension in your own self is released.  Holding onto anger is not healthy and sometimes when someone never apologizes for actions that have hurt you it consumes you but eventually you have to make peace in order to stay sane and healthy.  When offering up an apology, keep in mind, I’m sorry should never be followed with “but”…

When the words are hard to say, here is the perfect card to help you.  The front of the card helps you start as it already says you are sorry.  On the inside you can write:

- I hope to hear from you;

- I look forward to seeing you again soon;

- I hope you will accept my apology; or

- I hope we can go for coffee soon.

This card is good card to have around given we all make mistakes.  It’s kind of like the Get out of Jail Free card in Monopoly, it’s good to have one just in case.  To err is human…  To scoop your card, click here.