From afar she watched you grow up. She sees all that you are and quietly guides you from her living room. Even when you are at your home, you know that down the street there is this other place that smells differently, the contents of the refrigerator are completely different and the house is filled with brothers and sisters that aren't related to you by blood.
I was lucky enough to have that type of second Mom and I see lots of how I go about my life nurtured and nudged by her. When I think of fresh white buns sitting on a counter I can smell her home. I remember the look on her face when all the kids in the house would get out of hand and all she had to do was say "Nah" in that tone and we knew ~ that was enough. I can remember how she moved about her house methodically and when she picked up things for her kids at the store she would put them on their beds without a word about them. Nothing ever seemed like it was a big deal it was what is was.
They say it takes a village to raise children and since having my own kids I see that. To have extra eyes watching to ensure your kids are safe is always calming. To know that your child has a place to go away from home where they feel safe, secure and loved is comforting. I always knew, when in the care of Momma Harms I was loved like one of her own even though it was never expressed till much later in life. I was always warm, well fed and knew certain lessons were being taught. There was lots of laughter and my pseudo brothers and sisters and I created many fond memories that to this very day we can still laugh about.
It's funny, I can remember a pivotal moment realizing I had grown up and was no longer a little kid but a young adult. My parents were in the midst of a divorce and my best friend was off in Germany and high school had just ended. Life was changing. I missed going to the other end of my street and one day, felt the tug. I rode my bike down the road to my best friend's house knowing she wasn't there. Outside was her Mom and the way she looked at me I knew she knew what I was feeling. She knew I missed her daughter. She knew I was having a hard time and she looked at me with those mothering eyes and said, "You know you are one of my own. You come by any time." I have never forgotten that day or her words and knowing I had a place in a home that was not my own brought comfort and belonging at a time that was very scattered and unstable.
Sometimes it is your best friend's mom that can give you that nudge of confidence or that different perspective or sometimes, its what she doesn't say that makes the world of difference. So, for all those who have a "second" mom who made an impact in their lives, this Mother's Day let them know you are thankful for their guidance and love. The above card was designed for just that and can be purchased by clicking HERE.